Friday, November 13, 2009

When they are gone

The older I get the more I understand how precious this life of mine is.
When I was in my 20's,30's and 40's I didn't think like I do now.
I was out of my mine,drinking and party time was 24-7.
Today a friend lost her son to a early death,it doesn't matter how but THE SAME THING COULD HAVE HAPPEN TO ME! I don't remember believing in god and life like I do now but he was there protecting me in all of my crazyness.I don't want you to think that I'm going to preach to you and tell you what to do with your life,but I hope you don't have to find out the hard way.

1 comment:

Oso said...

Sorry about your friend's loss.

Not sure if you're referring to how you could lose your life prematurely or if you mean your child's life but either way it can be a shock,when the loss is suffered by someone you know,you interact with.

You can even feel like avoiding that person cause you don't know what to say to them, their loss is so devastating.

I read something once which was helpful, it said how people sometimes don't want to mention the incident, or mention the child's name to the parent who lost the child. Or they don't want to mention incidents, birthdays, whatever,cause people are afraid it will remind the parent of the loss and cause them pain.

What I was reading went on to say how the child is never out of the parents mind, you don't bring pain by mentioning the child but rather by not mentioning the child, it's as if the child didn't exist.

So it is okay and even helpful to speak of their loss to them.